John: Welcome to the first podcast of I'm John from Bad Fish Studios and I have with me my good buddy Imran. Hello I'm Imran. is a website that believes in positive action along its major avenues Learn Heal and Share. We will cover Learn and Heal in another podcast - today we would like to talk about Share. John: So, tell us, what is Share? Share or the act of Sharing, is spending your time trying to help other people, that's how we mean it. John: What all can be shared? Well, time can be shared, financial resources, companies resources - when you think about it in the corporate context (civic sense). Then there is contacts and referrals. You could share ideas and suggestions or recommendations. You could be sharing articles and videos that you find on the internet. John: What do we mean by share? We already said it's sharing time trying to help other people and then we say that there is a triad in sharing, there is helping somebody, getting help form them in some way, and there is the concept of going forward and trying to help a total stranger. Its only when we do all 3 that the cycle is complete. John: What is this favour bank? We believe in operating a favour bank - well its just like you have money in the real world, you could have favours and the favour bank is not a new concept its existed since the beginning of time. It was popularized again some 15-20 years ago when Paulo Coelho mentioned it in a book and I found it quite fascinating that there is a website for it today. In time, on YieldMore, we hope to be operating a kind of favour bank and we are trying to do this. There was another cute concept called pay-it-forward, which we believed in, which is the third part of the triad. Pay-it-forward is something coined by Benjamin Franklin back in the 1780's - one of those great American Freethinkers. So ya, the triad, the favour bank and pay-it-forward - thats what we mean when we say SHARE. John: What is the nature of this help that one person can offer another? Well there are many aspects that govern a person's life'there is the personal, professional social, and spiritual as my Guru SKY puts it and then there is FEPSI - financial, emotional, physical social and intellectual and then there is the eight faceted part of holistic health and good living that Saluto Wellness refers to which include all of the above and adds another dimension called environmental and they says occupational where we mean professional so these are the 8 facets of health. So help can be in any form of these. John: And how do you go about doing this? You could help somebody with their subjects in school, you could help them develop a hobby, or an interest in sports. You could help somebody if they are finding difficulties in math, or if you think maybe this you could be dyslexic, you could arrange to have them screened at some centre. Or if they are from a financially poor background, you could pay for their remediation or remedial intervention as it it called. We urge you to be creative and to think of new ways but the basic thing is, whatever facet of a person's life you are trying to enhance with the help, it all starts with time. You need to spend time with the person you need to be listening and talking to them, trying to build a connect with them - you need to be able to put yourself in their shoes, really empathising with them and helping them bounce back. John: Elaborate for us on counselling. In some not-so-distant future, we hope to have a repository of tips for a would-be counsellor. So, learning how to counsel, the knack of counselling, not coming in with your preconceptions about what the problem is or immediately trying to pigeon-hole the person's problem or solution. You know, when we help, there is so much of our character that comes in and thats not really where the art lies. The art lies in treating each case newly and in waiting for the person to come to their own conclusions and you just stand there as a catalyst and you know... watch them figure things out stuff for themselves but support them. So you give them love and encouragement and then you keep asking questions, knowing when to ask them - there again there is the art - you need to know when they are ready for something, when they can take on something, break it down into small pieces for them and offer them a clear straightforward path to progress. Its not always easy, its not always direct. A guy could have a problem with his speech - it could be a lisp / stutter. You do not need to take that on on the first day. You could take the indirect route - is there some amazing book or topic or activity he can trip on. Does he like fishing? Will that trigger a certain passion in him which will give him the impetus to overcome his problem and talk about this wonderful fishing trip he had - then there you have it. When you can find that little turning point and trigger it all / help accentuate it is when you can claim a certain victory in that person's life. Counselling - were all wannabe / would be / could be counsellors, and we are still trying to build that counselling network where people can share their experiences. John: Any places you can suggest until this wonderful "counselling network" is up and running? There is a nice website called which has not just a forum but also a live chat where everyone jumps in one room and theres a gazillion conversations going on. Then you can do a private message to people if you feel shy talking on the group or if there is something particular for that person because you liked something they said or the way they put it. Its a wonderful website - I've been there a few times. Whether I've helped people or not, we dont know because its anonymous and there is no guarantee you will be speaking to the same person the next time you login. I did go with the right intention and I was trying to help people out but then I realized I hadnt yet developed the art of listening, I hadnt yet developed the art of putting aside my own thought processes and ego. When I can have a more trained person guiding me - giving me inputs on my whole counselling thinking process is when I will start visiting there again. There is an interestin gamer on Twitch who has her own psychology Q/A stream. Her name is Coco The Louder - - She has her own website now and she has been compililng these amazing resources in the form of pdfs which are a great reference of things to know if your in stress, if your tring to deal with grief, if your tryin to bring your life back together. Stay tuned for more on healing, its a BIG part of what we do. John: Can you sum up the areas of the website for us? They are Learn / Heal / Share. Learn is anything to do with sharing of information which can be useful for someone. It can be on the professional side. It can be on the hobby / environmental side. All this goes on our channel Learn. PACT is everything to do with the education system - the main people in the education system - its Parents, Administrators, Children and Teachers. Heal is all about healing the body, mind and spirit. Health which we just spoke about in length. Heal is also about harmony - between factions where there is strife. Heal is about love which is a natural expression which comes from the heart. When your at peace with yourself and not giving way to all the negative forces that try to infuence you in a certain way against a certain [kind of] person. Share is everything to do with all other parts of the website - but in a more structured way - the way an NGO would go about trying to make a difference in its circle. When your doing something in a small scale, great your a part of the movement - when you do it on a big scale and trying to build a people doing something - you know moving forward on a positive note - then that becomes SHARE for us. Thank you for tuning in